We’re all going to die.
So how come nobody wants to talk about it?

At Skanda Vale Hospice, we don’t avoid talking about death. In fact, we find that an awareness of the reality of death can help us focus on what really matters in life. It can help us keep a clear head in the midst of the daily grind.

So we’d like to inspire you to take a fresh look at this bizarre taboo of death and dying. Join us for a lively weekend of music, drama, talks, workshops and great food!

Friday 2nd December – 7pm

‘Not The End’: An evening of live music, daring poetry and a top notch dinner, featuring:

  • Live music from acclaimed Welsh harpist Llinos Daniel
  • Poetry from award winning wordsmith Mab Jones
  • Songs from Jim Fox
  • And an epic Skanda Vale style buffet!

Mab Jones


Mab is a “unique talent” (The Times) who has read her work all over the UK, in the US, France, Ireland, and Japan. She is the author of Poor Queen (Burning Eye Books, 2014) and Take Your Experience And Peel It (Indigo Dreams, 2016) which won the Geoff Stevens Memorial Poetry Prize. Mab teaches creative writing at Cardiff University, writes for the New York Times, and recently presented a poetry programme on BBC Radio 4.

Llinos Daniel

Jim Fox

Buy tickets for Friday night!

This ticket is for the evening meal and concert on Friday 2nd December. All other events on Saturday and Sunday are offered free of charge. If you’d like to come for Saturday and Sunday, please use the booking form at the bottom of the page.

Saturday 3rd December

No charge for any of these events. Tea, cake and sandwiches are free. Donations for Skanda Vale Hospice are welcome : )

  • 10.30am til 5.00pm: A series of practical, inspiring talks, workshops and exhibitions from experts and everyday people – sharing their experience, stories and knowledge. It’s a chance to find out more about death and dying; the nitty gritty, the sublime and the ridiculous. Get some fascinating answers.
  • 5.30pm til 6.30pm: A fully interactive Death Cafe, where people, often strangers, gather to eat cake, drink tea and discuss death. The objective is to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives. A Death Cafe is a group directed discussion of death with no agenda, objectives or themes. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counselling session.
  • 7.30pm: A theatre presentation of ‘Outside the Box – A Live Show about Death’ by Liz Rothschild. Liz is a performer, celebrant and award winning burial ground owner. Her unique and original taboo-busting show combines mercurial tales and miraculous truths on the business of dying – collected over the years from life’s finishing line. Outside The Box asks its audience to embrace mortality and look on the bright side of life, with a weave of untold and surprising stories, a hint of history and some pithy commentary on the funeral industry (from one who knows!).

“A remarkably refreshing and important show, gently dancing on the line between playful irreverence and necessary solemnity.”
Broadway Baby, Edinburgh Festival 2016

“I’d like to see it performed in every Fringe Festival and every village hall in the UK!”
Zelah Senior, Brighton Fringe 2016

Sunday 4th December

Again, there’s no charge for any of these events… but donations are welcome. All proceeds help us care for people at the hospice. Free tea, cake and sarnies available all day!

  • 11.00am til 5.00pm: More talks, workshops and exhibitions. Some of the themes covered include: support and care at end of life, being prepared, taking control, how to plan a funeral celebration of life, end of life ethics, creative workshops, sound therapy sessions, soul midwifery and more.
  • 3.30pm: A multi faith forum – Catholics, Protestants, Buddhists, Hindus, Pagans and more take to the stage to share their views on ethics, pain, care, death, dying and the afterlife.
Planning to visit the Elephant in the Room on Saturday or Sunday?

Please let us know which day you want to come, and how many people you want to bring (so we know how much cake to make!) The Elephant in the Room is at Skanda Vale Hospice, Saron, Llandysul, SA44 5DY.

Registration for this event is now closed.

Thank you…

This event has been organised by our friends Jim Fox and Kiera Jones – find out more about their ongoing Elephant in the Room project. Special thanks also goes to Trinity St. David BA Theatre Design & Production staff and students for their generous support and technical know how.

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